Mistake #1) Betting Your Love-Life On His "Potential"

Do you know any women who want the man they are dating to behave differently?

Of course you do. And just like me, I'm sure you have friends who date guys who do not have much going for them or who do not treat them very well.

Somehow these women always have an excuse for the guy's shortcomings.

What's going on here? It is actually very simple.

Women (and men) don't base their choices of men on how "nice" or "good" someone is to them day-to-day.

Women choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

And guess what? Some women will continue to put up with a guy that does not treat them very well.

Sometimes for months or years... But why in the world would a woman do that!?

Well, to put it simply, women confuse the strong attraction they feel for the guy with a deeper "connection".

And women who do this are doomed to end up in failed relationships with the "wrong" guys.

How do I know? Experiences express its endeavor. Because I have seen it at least a hundred times... And because I have been this guy in the past myself.

Thinking back on past dating and relationships I have had, I was selfish and did not offer much.

I am amazed the women put up with me. But they did...all the while hoping that I would somehow change.

The women I dated hoped I would change.

The only thing they saw in me that led them to want to keep me around was the "potential" they saw in me to share my feelings and communicate with them.

The potential for something better and the potential for me to change and be a better lover, boyfriend, companion or whatever...

The truth was, I was hopelessly bad at these things at the time.

And more importantly, I was not even at a place in my life where I knew how to or was interested in developing a deep and committed relationship - with ANYONE.

But deep down these women believed that if they tried hard enough, that it would make up for what was lacking.

They believed that I could become someone else with them.... and that this would be easy for us both.

Talk about a losing battle. It does not make a lot of "logical" sense...

But until you accept that lots of women do this AND that YOU could be doing it on some level, you'll NEVER have the success with men that you choose and want.

to be continued..........