Sunday, September 17, 2006

The Process of Feeling Loved

When we hide who we are -- figuratively wearing bags on our heads -- we can only feel alone and miserable. When we tell the truth about ourselves, we can be seen by others as we really are. And then we can feel genuinely accepted by people and believe that they truly care about our happiness, which is the definition of Real Love. In short, we create the opportunity to feel loved when we tell the truth about ourselves, as the Wart King did.
Only when we take the bags off our heads -- when we tell the truth about ourselves, especially about our mistakes and flaws -- can we find people to accept and love us in the same way the Wise Man did for the Wart King. The effect is miraculous, even when we feel accepted and loved for only short periods of time. A wise man (or woman) is anyone who feels sufficiently loved himself that he is capable of accepting and loving us when he sees the truth about us. We'll discuss the role of wise men -- and how we can all become wise men and women

Monday, September 04, 2006

Mistake #1) Betting Your Love-Life On His "Potential"

Do you know any women who want the man they are dating to behave differently?

Of course you do. And just like me, I'm sure you have friends who date guys who do not have much going for them or who do not treat them very well.

Somehow these women always have an excuse for the guy's shortcomings.

What's going on here? It is actually very simple.

Women (and men) don't base their choices of men on how "nice" or "good" someone is to them day-to-day.

Women choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

And guess what? Some women will continue to put up with a guy that does not treat them very well.

Sometimes for months or years... But why in the world would a woman do that!?

Well, to put it simply, women confuse the strong attraction they feel for the guy with a deeper "connection".

And women who do this are doomed to end up in failed relationships with the "wrong" guys.

How do I know? Experiences express its endeavor. Because I have seen it at least a hundred times... And because I have been this guy in the past myself.

Thinking back on past dating and relationships I have had, I was selfish and did not offer much.

I am amazed the women put up with me. But they did...all the while hoping that I would somehow change.

The women I dated hoped I would change.

The only thing they saw in me that led them to want to keep me around was the "potential" they saw in me to share my feelings and communicate with them.

The potential for something better and the potential for me to change and be a better lover, boyfriend, companion or whatever...

The truth was, I was hopelessly bad at these things at the time.

And more importantly, I was not even at a place in my life where I knew how to or was interested in developing a deep and committed relationship - with ANYONE.

But deep down these women believed that if they tried hard enough, that it would make up for what was lacking.

They believed that I could become someone else with them.... and that this would be easy for us both.

Talk about a losing battle. It does not make a lot of "logical" sense...

But until you accept that lots of women do this AND that YOU could be doing it on some level, you'll NEVER have the success with men that you choose and want.

to be continued..........

The Woman Only [TWO]

When God created woman he was working late on the 6th day
An angel came by and said: “Why spend so much time on that one?”
And the Lord answered: “Have you seen all the specifications I have to meet to shape her?”

“She must be washable, but not made of plastic, have more than 200 moving parts which all must be replaceable and she must function on all kinds of food, she must be able to embrace several kids at the same time, give a hug that can heal anything from a bruised knee to a broken heart and she must do all this with only two hands”.

The angel was impressed. “Just two hands....impossible! “ And this is the standard model?!
“Too much work for one day....wait until tomorrow and then complete her“.

“I will not”, said the Lord. “I am so close to complete this creation, which will be the favourite of my heart”.
“She cures herself when sick & she can work 18 hours a day”. Angel came nearer & touched the woman.

“But you have made her so soft, Lord” “She is soft", said the Lord, “But I have also made her strong.
You can’t imagine what she can endure and overcome. “ “Can she think?" the angel asked.
The Lord answered: “Not only can she think, she can reason and negotiate."

The angel touched the woman’s cheek....

“Lord, it seems this creation is leaking! You have put too many burdens on her.”
“She is not leaking....it’s a tear” the lord corrected the angel. “What’s it for?" asked the angel.

And the Lord said:
“Tears are her way of expressing grief, her doubts, her love, her loneliness, her suffering and her pride.”

This made a big impression on the angel; “Lord, you are genius.
You thought of everything. The woman is indeed marvellous!"

Indeed she is!
Woman has strengths that amazes man. She can handle trouble and carry heavy burdens.
She holds happiness, love and opinions. She smiles when feeling like screaming.
She sings when she feels like crying, cries when she is happy and laughs when she is afraid.

She fights for what she believes in. Stand up against injustice.
She doesn’t take “no” for an answer, when she can see a better solution. She gives herself so her family can thrive. She takes her friend to the doctor if she is afraid. Her love is unconditional.

She cries when her kids are victorious. She is happy when her friends do well.
She is glad when she hears of a birth or a wedding.

Her heart is broken when a next of kin or friend dies. But she finds the strength to get on with life.
She knows that a kiss and a hug can heal a broken heart.
There is only one thing wrong with her She forgets what she is worth...

Pass this on to your lady friends to remind them how fantastic they are....pass it on to males you know. Sometimes they need to be reminded..!!!